Friday, August 12, 2011

My boyfriend and I broke up, but I still really like him..?

Okay, this is a long story but here goes. EVERYTHING. will come out. So basically we're both 16. And I've liked him for well six years now...and he's liked me for three. but I never really showed it until we were fifteen. So..he asked me out on last year and we were both incredibly happy and everyone was so excited because it had been so long and they thought we were the couple who would be together forever you know? So did we. Well at first I was reallly reluctant about 'going out' because my family's pretty conservative and stuff so it's more like you know no dates just get married in your twenties. plus i wanted us to last and i didn't think we could if we started at such a young age when we couldn't really...do much you know? Anyways, so fine that happened and we were really happy together. then we started playing footsie and stuff. and i was pretty reluctant to get physical AT ALL except for hugs and stuff but i thought that wasn't too much. and the funny thing is...so was he. as in not reluctantjust more like is it right or not. and all i can wait for you for five years if I have to. we used to talk a lot, laugh a lot and although we didn't have SO much in common, that just made it even more fun:) We talked about what we were going to do when we got older and where we should go and everything. He's actually VERY mature for his age. And his hands are...they're perfect:) Not the point. Anyway, umm...then something happened. I mean fine we didn't want to get close physically at all but...we thought a little bit was okay. then we got excited and it got KIND of, out of hand. I mean besides the hand on the thigh, he was really...interested in my chest. I don't know so wait i think it started with his hand grazing my back in the car, then slowly it went to my bra strap and opened it and then well...it was fondling i guess. at that time it seemed right but later we were both kind of guilty so we decided hat should stop. Then near the end of last year I was at his house and he kind of pushed me on his bed and lay on top of me. we kind of just rolled around and tickled each other and it was reall cute. but later again it felt to me at least like i had done something terribly wrong. that's when it happened...he said we couldn't control ourselves. i agreed...and then we basically decided absolutely NO physical contact. Fine. I was fine with that. But he...just stoppped being romantic at all after that. I still gae him stiky notes, told him he looked good and stuff. but he stopped that, the poems the origami everything. I was kind of mad and sad some days so we had like tiny fights because he jsut wasnt enthusiastic anymore. So i thought it was just a phase, one that everyone gets into..you know where you get sort of kind of bored. Evidently not. Then I thought he just didn't care about me. After a two hour TEXTING conversation, on the third of this month, we broke up. He broke up with me. Apparently, he thinks we're too young to have a 'proper healthy relationship' and that he doesn't want a relationship right now and all of that. I was angry, hurt, betrayed. still am in fact. But most of all I was just upset because I was in complete and utter disbelief. the WAY he did it, and the way he treated me in the month before that and the fact that I've lost him just KILLS me. I wasn't talking to him till now, meaning for like six days. And I've cried my eyes out. During our relationship, he was always the one saying he wanted to get engaged right now and stuff like that and I used to be saying you know don't make promises you're not SURE you can keep etc. So i don't know what to do...now I'm the one dumped. and he's the one...who dumped me. I still love him. A lot. But its my O'level year and that's what I need to concentrate on. I need to get over him or forget about him. But I can't. He wants to be just best friends right now. I don't know what to do. Talk to him not talkk to him? If I do talk to him, will he ever miss BEING with me? Does he still love me? What exactly did he mean by the reason he gave? And most of all, do we have a chance? DO we? People keep saying he's a real *** for what he did and I should not get back together with him no matter what because that will be pathetic. Today I wrote him a letter just to let everything out...and i'm talking to him now. He said sorry many times and he says that he hopes I'm around later on so that he can be with me then. but i don't know if he really means that. Do I wait for him? Do i forget about him? Remain friends with him? And if I need to forget about him, HOW? What should I DO? I really need help! Please!

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